Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Butt Plug Issues

Why Can't I Keep My Butt Plug In?

Over the course of the last two years, on numerous sex forums that I keep up with, I've noticed that many men are not getting the memo about how to comfortably wear a butt plug, except for short term fuck sessions.

They say that after awhile they feel discomfort, their skin gets irritated, they can't sit down for various reasons, but the number one complaint is they can't keep the butt plug in; they have to wear straps, and otherwise force that sucker to stay in place. Others have freaked out because the plug goes up into the rectum, on its way to dark hole of Calcutta.

Reasons for discomfort
I'm sorry, but I am not convinced that silicone plugs can be as comfortable as glass and metal when it comes to skin irritation around the anal opening. It takes frequent lubing to keep the base and shaft of the silicon plug from rubbing you the wrong way. If you've not tried metal or glass, consider switching.

The shape and size of the butt plug can also cause discomfort. If you're going to go long term, say twelve hours, you cannot wear a plug that is going to take up a lot of space in your rectum. Simply put, you're going to suffer gas buildup, fecal crowding, and get your prostate massaged TOO MUCH.

If your ass is greedy and wants bigger and bigger plugs, go for it, but you will not be able to use those monsters when you go out dancing, bike riding, doing yard work, and going shopping.

Consider the base of the butt plug. Any design, where the plug is glass, metal, or silicone where the base of the plug sits perpendicular to the butt cheeks is going to cause irritation. I personally think a base on a plug that is shoved up a man's ass is sexy as hell looking, but those designs will irritate the longer you try to wear them. So far, a circular base that fits between the butt cheeks like a coin in a slot is the best I have found. Second to that (for me) is the NJOY plugs with their oval base. And finally a ball base or a T-shaped base might allow comfort for a longer period of time.

Reasons for plugs falling out, or climbing into the rectum
Guys, this plug will not stay in, nor will similarly designed
A DILDO is NOT a butt plug. Dildos are designed for maximum butt fucking. And I have to admit, a big dildo can be pleasurable for a short term butt pounding. But the reason why a dildo is not good for long term wear is there is no shaft, around which the sphincter can squeeze shut to hold the dildo in place. But that also goes for a poorly designed butt plug that doesn't have enough differential between the size of the bulb that goes inside the rectum and the size of the shaft. There should be at least a 2:1 ratio between the widest part of the plug that goes inside the rectum and the shaft, which is held in place by the sphincter muscles. A two-inch bulb should have no more than a one-inch shaft.

The plug will not fall out if there is this ratio between the bulb and the shaft—unless of course your sphincters are stretched and "ruined" from fisting and huge dildo fucks. I know that some guys want to destroy the ass, and that's fine, but it's not if you're going to wear a plug when you go out for the evening or sit at work plugged.

And finally, too much lube can allow the circle base to slip inside and go past the sphincter and begin its climb into your body. Early on, I had a couple of crises when I was using too much lube—so much lube, in fact, that I had to wear double the briefs and boxers to keep the oily stain from soaking through and showing on my jeans.

Too much prostate massage
You will eventually feel overwhelmed if the design of your plug keeps pressing against the prostate without relief. At the very least, you'll keep feeling like you have to pee. More pleasurably but kind of messy is you'll keep leaking precum into your underwear. When that happens to me, I like to collect it on my finger and lick it up.

As most of you probably know, I have found long-term plugging Nirvana with this plug, here. It has an angled head, which I wear away from the prostate. The differential between the head of the plug and the shaft is 2:1, and the ring base fits between my butt cheeks like a coin in a slot. It's surprisingly easy to sit down on, which almost looks counter-intuitive. Also note that the ring base also has a 2:1 differential to the shaft.

No, I am not advocating for this plug above all others for long-term plugging. But I am advocating for this design or something similar. You might feel hesitant to wear glass in your ass. Try metal instead.

But I digress. The overall design of plugs that are ideal for long-term wear of twelve or more hours has an angled head, so that you can wear it away from your prostate, has a shaft that is twice as narrow as the bulb that goes inside the rectum, and has either a ring base (not a round base that sits perpendicular to your butt cheeks), an oval base, a ball base, or a T-base. And any of these need to be likewise twice as big as the shaft.